A Small Act of Kindness Can Change Someone's Life Forever

Now this is one POWERFUL story-

“One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle.

It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, ‘Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd.

I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him.

They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt.

His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him…

He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes

My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye.

As I handed him his glasses, I said, ‘Those guys are jerks.’

They really should get lives.

He looked at me and said, ‘Hey thanks!’

There was a big smile on his face.

It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.

I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived.

As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before..

He said he had gone to private school before now.

I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.

We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books.

He turned out to be a pretty cool kid.

I asked him if he wanted to play a little football

with my friends . He said yes.

We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.

Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, ‘Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!

He just laughed and handed me half the books.

Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends..

When we were seniors we began to think about college.

Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke.

I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem.

He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship.Kyle was valedictorian of our class.

I teased him all the time about being a nerd.

He had to prepare a speech for graduation.

I was so glad it wasn’t me having to get up there and speak.

Graduation day, I saw Kyle.

He looked great.

He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school.

He filled out and actually looked good in glasses.

He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him.

Boy, sometimes I was jealous!

Today was one of those days.

I could see that he was nervous about his speech.

So, I smacked him on the back and said, ‘Hey, big guy, you’ll be great!’

He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. ‘ Thanks,’ he said.

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began

‘Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years.

Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach…but mostly your friends….

I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story.’

I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the

first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.

He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn’t have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.

He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.

‘Thankfully, I was saved.

My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable..’

I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.

I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.

Not until that moment did I realize it’s depth.

Never underestimate the power of your actions..

With one small gesture you can change a person’s life.

For better or for worse.

God puts us all in each others lives to impact one another in some way.”

Wow… I am speechless-


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Your Relationships Define You

I recently attended an amazing seminar by Anil Gupta. To put it simply, it forever changed my life! Here are my notes from the day so you can benefit too!

There is no trying.

The words that you use define your life.

Namaste is ONE powerful greeting. It means, the God (or light) In Me acknowledges the God (or light) in You.

Ask open ended questions.

There’s nothing anyone else can do to make you upset. You choose it yourself.

What other people think of me is none of my business.

We are Born w/ avg 235 relationships. The common thread in all those is you.

Listen to the greatness others speak of in you.

Little imperfections make us perfect.

Choose to see more humor in humanity.

We don’t know how much time we have together.

Work on yourself and everything will take care if itself.

Who you are being is far more important than what you say.

Infinite patience produces immediate results.

Expectations always lead to upsets.

Humans love to be right.

It’s not really about what happens to us, rather who we become.

The quality of your life is dependent about upon the quality of your questions you ask yourself consistently.

Instead of judging myself, I observe myself.

Clarity is power.

You need to know where you are.

You will always get to where you get to.

Awareness -> clarity -> power -> results -> success -> fulfillment.

Hence become aware and be fulfilled.

When would now be a good time.

If God is with me, who can be against me.

Know. Know that you don’t know. Don’t know that you don’t know.

Kid. Pool. Mom. Drowning. God analogy.

Regrets are the lies that our mind tells us.

Tasks require input.

I choose to be healthy, eat small lean meals. And be fit.

Look within for all your problems. All solutions are within you.

Detachment is the key to fulfillment.

Mind sets expectations.

Choose an introspective approach.

The answer can only come from within the individual.

Perfection is not achievable.

Definition of Love = acceptance.

Humans are Meaning making machines.

The answer can only come from within another person.

Success is progress.

Ask myself is what I am doing to serve/please me or someone else…

Work on ourselves first, always.

Who I spend time with is who I become.

The definition of love is acceptance.

My love for my friends & family is and will always be unconditional.

Honor others imperfections.

Dating can be acting.

Filters are our belief/pre-conceived notions towards another person or situation.

Make your partner #1 in your life so your kids can learn to make their Partner #1 in their lives.

The past does not create the future. It has simply brought us to where we are today. The boat moves forward because of it’s propellers not because of the wake.

I am conscious that I want to help everyone.

For you to change your life… You must change.

The quality of your communication will determine the quality of a relationship

It’s not what you say but how you say it.

Train others how to deal with you.

There is nothing to try. You either do things or you don’t.

Listening is communication.

Eye contact is communication.

Your communication makes your relationships thrive

The ultimate secret to life is gratitude.


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You Can Live An Encouraged Life

I recently had the pleasure to meet Geri Carter (pictured left with her husband, Tim) from Carter & Evans Therapy, checkout their website here. Her insights into relationships were simply profound! Below are my notes from the talk- Enjoy ;)

-Fill in the details by asking questions
-Even do things wrong with confidence
-Find someone you are going to grow with over the years and be flexible yet firm
-Listen to people wholeheartedly, then make the problem solvable by helping them see things differently
-Always take the time to evaluate what you are doing in life and why
-Women can’t stand being ignored
-Validate people’s feeling and that builds rapport
-Side step the little things.. be mature and your relationship will last long
-Side step the urge to “call out” your partner on the little stuff and it will go a LONG way. You can then bring it up later if you really need to when the “energy setting” is different
-When you get upset, let it out right then instead of holding it in
-Train yourself to only remember the good in others

This is super powerful below:

Habits that Disconnect

-Criticism
-Blaming
-Complaining
-Nagging
-Threatening
-Punishing
-Rewarding to control

Habits that Connect

-Listening
-Accepting
-Trusting
-Respecting
-Encouraging
-Supporting
-Negotiating difference & problem solving

Thanks for the awesome insights Geri!


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